- Listen to us. You can learn as much (maybe more) from our lived experience as you can from a textbook.
- Talk to us about our whole lives. It can be uplifting for a doctor to be excited about what's happening for us, away from our conditions.
- Don't show too much excitement at treating a rare patient for the first time.Sometimes that feels like you've won a prize.
- Let us help others who may be struggling with similar conditions. Invite us to speak at medical events or put us in touch with families.
- Mind your language, especially if you're a doctor who writes for publication or uses social media. Terms like "healthcare burden" are really damaging. Also I don't "suffer from" ichthyosis, I "live with" it.
- Take a step back to reflect on how far your patients have come, because of the treatment and empathy you've shown. Many of us we owe our lives to you. Thank you."
"Minutes before I read Jessie’s article, I’d watched a harrowing piece on Lateline that told the story of an intellectually disabled woman who had been sexually abused by 10 people through her life.
Later that day, as people were telling me how judgemental I was for my reaction to Jessie’s article, I found out a newborn baby in Bangladesh was killed by village men because it had Ichthyosis - the same rare severe skin condition as me. They were scared of its appearance and thought it was cursed. It was no wonder I thought Jessie’s worries about not having makeup to wear to work was shallow.
I’ve found the people who are applauded for going makeup free (like Alicia Keys earlier this year ), or feel afraid to go out in public are the people, or participate in no makeup challenges (radio host Kristie Mercer did a year ago) almost always meet conventional beauty standards. They’ve got a beauty privilege."
I go without make up for no reason other than i dont want to wear it. I also dont understand the obsession of calling people brave to appear without make up. I dont understand why some people put so much make up on that they look unnatural.
ReplyDeleteI so agree with your article on the ABC. Sometimes I feel like a lot of the mistreatment of patients in the medical system comes down to medical professionals not treating their patients as people. My psyc always says to me, "why, oh why, won't doctors listen to their patients?"
ReplyDeleteBelated congratulations on both of these pieces, Carly!
ReplyDeleteSSG xxx