tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post7456752332238113980..comments2024-01-16T01:42:41.699+11:00Comments on Tune into Radio Carly: The time I felt silenced by a person in power. (And why it's taken me two years to speak up.)Carly Findlayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-36129284423693023282016-11-28T19:14:24.958+11:002016-11-28T19:14:24.958+11:00THIS! Is exactly why we can't afford to have a...THIS! Is exactly why we can't afford to have any sections of the Discrimination (racial or otherwise) Act/laws changed to remove the insult and offend sections. Can you imagine the free for all that would ensue? <br /><br />It's pretty ordinary you experienced that in a media role - your boss was clearly being a bully. They would have known exactly what they were doing and it seems like they were making a point of making sure you knew it too (by keeping it up).<br /><br />I have experienced (if I'm honest I still do) similarly inappropriate behaviour in my predominantly male workplace and in other circles. My large boobs, infertility, husband leaving me, dating experiences and sex-life have all been seen as topical free-for-all for the men I work with. If I react to anything it's because I'm being a bitch, it'd just be considered one more thing I'm being bitchy about. It's really tough being a woman working in a male dominated workplace. At times I feel so dis-empowered to do or say anything, especially if I've awkwardly laughed it off or had a few too many drinks so engage in the banter making it seem that it's ok. Now I feel like I just have to put up with it because I've let it slide for so long. I think I feel like it's always my fault because over the years t's just escalated because I've never handled it properly. <br /><br />I'm actually a pretty open and honest person, I share a lot with my former boss and his wife were my friends before he became my boss. I guess I should have made the boundaries clearer at least there. <br /><br />The first time I remember an adult male (a neighbour) talk about the size of my boobs I was about 12. We had 2 neighbours both who had daughters who thought it was ok to talk about girls' and women's bodies and appearances. I remember feeling mortified and disgusted and then mortified again that it continued on and on throughout my adolescence. The worst thing was that whenever I complained about it to my parents (Who heard it and never did anything about it) they made excuses because the two trolls dressed as men were drunks. I guess when I think about it, it's just one more behaviour I've learnt to tolerate from a young age. Lady Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168213949533167283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-8480858714659059942016-11-11T22:07:04.014+11:002016-11-11T22:07:04.014+11:00I can relate. A lot of stuff that has been said to...I can relate. A lot of stuff that has been said to me, along with invasive personal questions about my disability, have been from people in power (bosses, professors, etc.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com