tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post4253644633245702636..comments2024-01-16T01:42:41.699+11:00Comments on Tune into Radio Carly: Dear Anonymous...Carly Findlayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-88368516956817764962012-12-06T14:51:20.858+11:002012-12-06T14:51:20.858+11:00Social media although an amazing community and I t...Social media although an amazing community and I totally appreciate we cannot all get on and agree because such is life , the hiding behind an anon which I also to an extent understand us not a carte Blanche to be hurtful, bullying and vindictive. Be strong beautiful xxxEasy Peasy Kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01952923643103485105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-48825081271194470222012-12-05T23:17:16.502+11:002012-12-05T23:17:16.502+11:00As always Carly your words are written with such b...As always Carly your words are written with such beautiful open honesty.Thats why so many of us keep coming back.<br />Your warmth and raw honesty are refreshing.<br />I have been reading your blog for a long time now and have always admired how you respond to the nasties with such grace.<br />Never have you taken yourself down to their level.<br />I hope you feel so proud of that fact.<br />My parents always said what you have said...if you cant say something nice then don't say anything at all.<br />Such a simple kind rule to live by.<br />I have commented and supported here and on other blogs and then the anonymous nasties have turned on me.<br />I now believe whatever we say to them will not change their way as they have a goal to be negative and don't care if they hurt or discourage anyone.<br />They need to find it in themselves to be strong enough to admit what they do is so wrong and want to change.<br />I find it better to feel sorry for them as they must have such cold,lonely and empty lives.Why else would they be reading something they hate or disagree with.<br />Thankyou for this respectful post and to all the anonymous<br />who respond with negative words...it is never too late to become a better person.<br />It is so much easier to be kind.You will feel so good when you respond with positive words instead of negative and I hope you find it in your heart to give it a try.<br />Keep up the great work Carly.<br />You are a wonderful inspiration to so many.xxDebyl1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-78421186999316147832012-12-05T18:41:09.971+11:002012-12-05T18:41:09.971+11:00Just pointing out that interpretations are subject...Just pointing out that interpretations are subjective, and not all comments that aren't praise or agreeable are malicious or unnecessary. Those that are are not acceptable, but when we receive negative (not malicious) feedback after publicising our thoughts/opinions, we should accept it's a part of the dialogue. Whether it changes our perspectives, angers us, strengthens our own convictions- if it comes from a genuine place we have to respect their right to feel that way. For a final time- NOT referring to nasty comments, rather comments that challenge the opinion of the blog post/article or whatever it may be. There can be mutual respect with conflicting ideals. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-56473959509557501452012-12-05T18:24:53.571+11:002012-12-05T18:24:53.571+11:00As I said, I wasn't condoning nasty comments. ...As I said, I wasn't condoning nasty comments. I was making the point that if you hold opinions/have experiences you don't want others to comment on- keep them private. Once out in public they become part of a dialogue. I just dislike when people want the positive but won't except the negative. I work in a field where individuals pour their heart and soul into works that are made for public consumption, and it's a double edged sword. We need to remember that while some comments are nasty and unnecessary, often people are coming from their own perspective and feel strongly and genuinely about what they say. By creating a public dialogue we give people that right.<br />And when people say don't read a blog if you don't like it- it's very possible to like most posts and then read one that you disagree with. That's when many people comment in what may be seen as a negative way, without disliking the whole blog or blogger. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-7111471916407952002012-12-05T16:35:49.028+11:002012-12-05T16:35:49.028+11:00You show 'em.
(Also this is the same Georgie ...You show 'em.<br /><br />(Also this is the same Georgie @ heartdrops.org, I just moved my blog. xD)Georgiehttp://hey.georgie.nu/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-71399004451329200782012-12-05T16:25:57.307+11:002012-12-05T16:25:57.307+11:00Thanks Lisa ! Thanks Lisa ! Carly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-38742909153391590032012-12-05T16:20:59.430+11:002012-12-05T16:20:59.430+11:00Ave he's should read avenues.Ave he's should read avenues. Carly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-84031202990626333042012-12-05T16:20:00.167+11:002012-12-05T16:20:00.167+11:00My blog and my workplace are completely different ...My blog and my workplace are completely different places, and for most bloggers, that's the case. I don't think you can compare writing on a blog to writing on the physical walls of your workplace. <br />However, as a communicator and events planner for my day job, I also receive direct feedback about my work - some praise and also criticism. The workplace does protect employees from the nasty criticism/attacks received - there's not many ave he's of protection for bloggers and writers. Fair enough it's our choice to out our opinions out there but I don't think it's justified to believe we should expect nastiness - in particular, when many of our opinions we put out on our blog are far from nasty. Carly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-86785079152981530432012-12-05T15:59:38.989+11:002012-12-05T15:59:38.989+11:00To the original commenter - I don't think a co...To the original commenter - I don't think a comparison can be made with a public but personal blog and writing all over your workplace's walls. In the example you've given, you're forcing people to see your face and read your words because you're imposing yourself onto your colleagues in a space you all share. Carly (and bloggers generally) don't do that - we write what we write and post what we post in our own little space on the internet, and people have the choice to enter that space or not. There is no element of force or coercion, so there's really no excuse to write nasty comments, if people don't like it they just don't have to visit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-44244956563869134622012-12-05T14:10:12.061+11:002012-12-05T14:10:12.061+11:00I'm the original commenter- I don't condon...I'm the original commenter- I don't condone purely nasty comments or any specific comments Carly mentioned. I was referring to the issue more broadly, and for bloggers in general. As I said, I was referring to the idea that people wouldn't say certain things in 'real life'. So when I was saying if YOU did this or that YOU should expect this or that I was referring to people online in general, not Carly specifically. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-83023659896846808822012-12-05T12:24:33.607+11:002012-12-05T12:24:33.607+11:00Brilliant Carly. I heartily agree with everything ...Brilliant Carly. I heartily agree with everything you have written.Lisa @ Blithe Momentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06044161376528094256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-61777222245577676762012-12-05T12:01:52.517+11:002012-12-05T12:01:52.517+11:00Wonderful post. Love your blog.
I can't belie...Wonderful post. Love your blog. <br />I can't believe people do this. I will never understand what a person gets out of putting another person down, or hurting them with their words. <br />I get not everyone gets along, what I don't get is if you don't like a persons blog, why read it? Honestly it baffles me! Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10987716333870309700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-84408629254887628412012-12-05T10:53:20.232+11:002012-12-05T10:53:20.232+11:00Right on Carly xRight on Carly xAmy @ Weekend at Rosyshttp://www.weekendatrosys.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-20064052232487268692012-12-05T10:11:39.276+11:002012-12-05T10:11:39.276+11:00I can understand what the original commenter is sa...I can understand what the original commenter is saying, as bloggers we do put ourselves on the internet and of course this opens us up to interacting with far more people than we normally would in day to day life, but having said that - people need to remember that we probably blog about 30% (if that!) of our lives and we are indeed real people, with real feelings.<br /><br />Carly seems to take criticism better than many of us, myself included. To blog you need to have relatively thick skin but that doesn't mean that hearing hurtful things is going to be any easier.<br /><br />There is a difference to criticism and pure nastiness and many anonymous posters seem to forget where to draw the line unfortunately. Aspiring Domestic Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17334174915072514512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-75132418644900659112012-12-05T09:59:26.436+11:002012-12-05T09:59:26.436+11:00Well written Carly. A little more courtesy and con...Well written Carly. A little more courtesy and consideration for others, online as well as off, would make the world a better place. <br /> Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12831581149004182681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-35553039169613684592012-12-05T09:57:54.504+11:002012-12-05T09:57:54.504+11:00Love your blog Carly. You are such an inspiration....Love your blog Carly. You are such an inspiration. I love your bravery I love that you do not censor who you are when you blog - you let us see the real you a full multifaceted person with real emotions and responses to life's situations. Ignore the haters, you don't have to respond to them, you don't have anything to prove. If they really had the passion and conviction behind what they were saying, they'd write a blog themselves. They're not interested in engaging discussion, they just want attention - I always have had a suspicion that the hate commenters that are so fiercely vocal online probably can't find people in real life that will patiently let them spew their crap :)<br /><br />Xxx<br />KatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-87174918846669999632012-12-05T09:52:07.312+11:002012-12-05T09:52:07.312+11:00Actually there was plenty on comprehension and a d...Actually there was plenty on comprehension and a desire to be constructive, in addition to voicing a personal opinion in a public forum. Narcissistic? Nothing of the sought.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-66464205187278954012012-12-05T09:44:42.844+11:002012-12-05T09:44:42.844+11:00Lol * you're. - sorryLol * you're. - sorryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-75727197148313126682012-12-05T09:41:49.892+11:002012-12-05T09:41:49.892+11:00There's a difference between being mean and of...There's a difference between being mean and offering criticism. Your comment shows that you either didn't read the blog, you have a biase or preconceived agenda you are opportunistically expressing or simply your comprehension skills are not very good. My annoyance with anonymous complainers is thus and your comment is an example. If you don't have anything constructive to add, your just wasting space and seeking narcissistic ego fulfilment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-63771313366444645112012-12-05T09:28:12.223+11:002012-12-05T09:28:12.223+11:00Great post Carly!! Really well written xx Great post Carly!! Really well written xx phoebenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-6875402173222797482012-12-05T09:20:37.176+11:002012-12-05T09:20:37.176+11:00So eloquent, as per usual :) Well said.
Heidi xoSo eloquent, as per usual :) Well said.<br />Heidi xoHeidi - Apples Under My Bedhttp://applesundermybed.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-22751553011870974212012-12-05T09:06:08.021+11:002012-12-05T09:06:08.021+11:00Hi Carly I've been reading your blog for a lo...Hi Carly I've been reading your blog for a long time now - and this is first time I've felt compelled to post. I firmly believe in not posting anything that I wouldn't be prepared to say to the person concerned face to face. It is so cowardly! There's nothing wrong with criticism or disagreement - but it should never be personal or nasty. Of course you have to be prepared to take both the positive and negative when you put yourself out there - but it should never stoop to some of the vitriolic comments I have seen posted around the internet.<br />PS I used to work on the same floor as you about 3 years ago - and have become a great fan and admirer of your blog, facebook and twitter posts. Keep up the great work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-45395735042567862202012-12-05T08:59:17.149+11:002012-12-05T08:59:17.149+11:00Beautifully written and well handled. Beautifully written and well handled. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-8819702057413336802012-12-05T08:57:20.167+11:002012-12-05T08:57:20.167+11:00"standing ovation" ! Well written could ..."standing ovation" ! Well written could not agree more. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-61702545387099387332012-12-05T08:54:17.778+11:002012-12-05T08:54:17.778+11:00Just a point about people not saying mean things i...Just a point about people not saying mean things in person- if you were to put photos of yourself all over your workplace, and wrote all over the walls what you were doing, people may. There IS a difference between online and 'real life' but there's also a difference between public and private. The Internet has both public and private to an extent, and your blog is wide open for people to see. People you don't know. Yeah, some people get too hung up on staying around and simply being mean. But some anon comments are people voicing their honest opinion. If you don't like it, get out of the public space. Make your blog private, or only let people you know comment. But don't take the praise of strangers without taking the negative, and don't plaster your life around a public, although virtual, space and complain when you don't get the response you want. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com