tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post2364356463811461039..comments2024-01-16T01:42:41.699+11:00Comments on Tune into Radio Carly: Online deception - the one that never wasCarly Findlayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-79683447962437213692012-12-17T11:52:03.673+11:002012-12-17T11:52:03.673+11:00I read this link from todays blog post. You are so...I read this link from todays blog post. You are so amazing and talented, thank you so much for sharing this post. I also share a similar story with my ex husband, it is easy to gloss over irregularities when everything is going fine.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your gorgeous blog with the world, you make it a better place.J Botthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17755875735136640435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-54287100665248373782011-07-10T12:30:44.682+10:002011-07-10T12:30:44.682+10:00wow Carly. I love reading your blog and this post ...wow Carly. I love reading your blog and this post really hits home for me. although not someone i met online, my ex did similar things to me. he was so manipulative (still is) and has a magnetic personality but everything he does is a lie and he hurts people with no concern. we were together (on and off) for 4 years and he ripped my heart of my chest more than once. he proposed to me and then 2 weeks later i caught him out with another woman. it can be so devastating for a young woman (or any woman for that matter!). i feel your pain. i am married now and have been with my hus band for 6 years but i still think of my ex most days :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-1360806499431996292011-07-09T20:21:30.480+10:002011-07-09T20:21:30.480+10:00So wrong that you had to go through this - what a ...So wrong that you had to go through this - what a sicko. You had a lucky escape there. Pathological liars exist offline and online as you know. I was married to one. Unfortunately he is still in my life as we have kids together. He still tells lies and the kids are starting to learn what is truth and what is not. Very sad watching them go through that ...bronniehttp://www.maidinaustralia.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-75898558303175681142011-07-02T17:42:03.603+10:002011-07-02T17:42:03.603+10:00My goodness, Carly! What an awful experience. It&#...My goodness, Carly! What an awful experience. It's so unfair that you had to go through this. How scary that he was in your life like that, what a fraud. Creepy, really creepy and scary!! I shudder to think about it. I hope this was some good therapy for you, to get it out there.<br />Heidi xoHeidi - Apples Under My Bedhttp://applesundermybed.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-5048764691487050642011-05-05T10:10:25.833+10:002011-05-05T10:10:25.833+10:00Stopping by from BlogHer - I'm so sorry that y...Stopping by from BlogHer - I'm so sorry that you went through this, and I'm so glad that you're not still entangled with this guy!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07215494861364651886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-47932116066859710972011-05-02T23:38:36.402+10:002011-05-02T23:38:36.402+10:00What a chilling, chilling post.What a chilling, chilling post.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-77557655077667199512011-05-02T20:09:10.163+10:002011-05-02T20:09:10.163+10:00I'm sorry you experienced this... what a horri...I'm sorry you experienced this... what a horrible thing to happen!Scatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00821059799772449216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-5245068044968186762011-05-01T11:12:25.748+10:002011-05-01T11:12:25.748+10:00Thanks for sharing such a moving and personal stor...Thanks for sharing such a moving and personal story. Hugs!! xxxHayley Cafarellahttp://rellacafa.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-87196371142954663062011-05-01T01:08:46.685+10:002011-05-01T01:08:46.685+10:00I read that article too!
Holy be-jee-zuz. There r...I read that article too!<br /><br />Holy be-jee-zuz. There really are people like that… Having been at such a young age at the time, you are strong and mature to have come out of it wiser and not had let it take you down too.<br />How horrible that people can lie like this or in anyway, really.<br />I hate liars.<br />xGen [Complex Appl3pie]http://appl3pie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-49445160565915024762011-04-30T20:56:06.329+10:002011-04-30T20:56:06.329+10:00oh.my.lord.
Carly!
you are one strong lady to ha...oh.my.lord.<br /><br />Carly!<br /><br />you are one strong lady to have gotten through all of this on top - to make a new friend in his ex-girlfriend and gotten your life together enough to exercise your journalism skills on this story.<br /><br />on another note, i think it says a lot about parents who love their children so much that they'll always try take your side even when their original and gut instinct may have been against it...??BusiChichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432506746005981363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-29231125961175538492011-04-29T09:53:59.133+10:002011-04-29T09:53:59.133+10:00Carly, I'm so sorry this happened to you. As I...Carly, I'm so sorry this happened to you. As I was reading, a myrad of emotions swept through me: Hurt for you. Fear for you and your family. Anger that this so called "man" would take advantage of you. I'm so glad you wrote this blog though. Not only as therapy for you, but a real life warning to other women that not every guy is who they say they are. This isn't your fault, so I hope you don't feel guilty. This can happen to anyone at any age, and not just online. <br />I'm relieved only your feelings were hurt. You have such a good heart, and you're brave. You're confident. You have a wonderful sense of humor. (I can tell just through your blog) A real man is going to meet you, and you deserve that. He will be so lucky to have you.katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15738251806241310569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-41166028447900585462011-04-28T19:23:36.274+10:002011-04-28T19:23:36.274+10:00Hi Carly! Thanks for sharing!!! Unfortunately the ...Hi Carly! Thanks for sharing!!! Unfortunately the world id full of liars and dishonest people... they teach us valuable lessons!Yellenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697038457581719576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-46363882149920722182011-04-28T08:57:31.280+10:002011-04-28T08:57:31.280+10:00Awful...it reminded me a bit of Catfish too.
See...Awful...it reminded me a bit of Catfish too. <br /><br />See you tonight!Faux Fuchsiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317677066408030053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-25467313695988230782011-04-27T22:12:58.359+10:002011-04-27T22:12:58.359+10:00Dear Carly
I think as women we often try to 'u...Dear Carly<br />I think as women we often try to 'understand' men. Unfortunately, men who require 'understanding' are never worth it. Sadly, one has to kiss a number of frogs to find one's prince. Keep well. LindaxxxLinda Back in Canberrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00178732122269665163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-58193013894655999872011-04-27T22:09:45.912+10:002011-04-27T22:09:45.912+10:00Wow. That was an intense, and beautifully written ...Wow. That was an intense, and beautifully written story - thank you so much for sharing! This reminds me alot of my first boyfriend. It's a little bit comforting to know that I'm not the only one who has gone through something like this. Thank-you again, so much, for sharing.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395668352640656250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-2193474119616567932011-04-27T22:01:26.540+10:002011-04-27T22:01:26.540+10:00I have met some horrible liars online. I recently ...I have met some horrible liars online. I recently found out a real life friend is a pathological liar. It's sickening - you wont believe some of the things she's lied about. I've learnt that this is much more common than I ever thought and I'm shocked that so many people have had dealings with someone like this. <br />I hope he gets his come uppance.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17396378364156813235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-49346512880378214742011-04-27T20:23:39.186+10:002011-04-27T20:23:39.186+10:00Mate, what a thing to go through. Very captivating...Mate, what a thing to go through. Very captivating writing too.Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600427311498297800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-29160738373612422822011-04-27T19:54:29.287+10:002011-04-27T19:54:29.287+10:00Such an amazing post to read. Thank you for sharin...Such an amazing post to read. Thank you for sharing. I hope that guy gets the karma he deserves.. And I hope one day you meet a person who can appreciate you for the amazing person you are :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-32861805758520832732011-04-27T19:46:08.244+10:002011-04-27T19:46:08.244+10:00I know some people would be quick to say that it i...I know some people would be quick to say that it is your beautiful trusting nature that let you be duped for so long. But what I think is most amazing about you is that you did all those beautiful, selfless things like sending baby clothes, and consoling him over his(while admitedly fake) dead mother, BEFORE and you would still do those kinds of things now. Not only have you grown from this horrible experience, but you have managed to do it without becoming jaded (not something many of us with even vaguely similar stories can attest to).Chookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14068205711034477597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-85516861971354089312011-04-27T18:32:43.591+10:002011-04-27T18:32:43.591+10:00I get so angry when I read about men like these. ...I get so angry when I read about men like these. It doesn't just happen online. I was married to one of them and it took me 18 years to figure out how much of our life together had been a lie. In the meantime he developed an inappropriate online relationship with a 15 yo girl who well knew his age and marital status and in fact knew me personally. I shudder to think about the lies he told her about me and our marriage, and the lies he told to the next woman he cheated on me with.<br /><br />I'm sorry this happened to you, Carly. You're right, 17 is such a vulnerable age and I can only imagine how this would have stuffed you up. However, having met you and gotten to know you online I have a feeling that this is unlikely to happen again. You've been through the wringer and will probably think twice, or three times, before getting involved again.Princess Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17428403547798565896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-83868824567417068692011-04-27T14:25:51.861+10:002011-04-27T14:25:51.861+10:00Wonderfully written Carly, well done. I was comple...Wonderfully written Carly, well done. I was completely intrigued by your story, I hope this has made you stronger...xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555476874761073833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-33700267564069754902011-04-27T13:34:24.021+10:002011-04-27T13:34:24.021+10:00Beautifully honest post. I was gobsmacked reading ...Beautifully honest post. I was gobsmacked reading it this morning, and had to take some time this morning to digest it. Wow. I can't believe there are people like this in the world. The article on Online Munchausen was interesting and saddening.<br /><br />It might be too close to home for you, but the "documentary" Catfish shows the story of online friendships and lies. (the "s are because there is debate as to how true the story was, but a good watch just the same).Polly6034https://www.blogger.com/profile/06459621183823625078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-64140978546927449052011-04-27T13:33:31.687+10:002011-04-27T13:33:31.687+10:00Thanks for sharing, Carly. As much as I don't ...Thanks for sharing, Carly. As much as I don't like to think about it, I did a similar thing to this man many years ago when I was 13 or 14 in high school. I thought it was a joke but it didn't turn out that way. I made up so many stories, lied about my life and the people in it and eventually I ended up loving the person I was doing it to and He loved me. After a while I became so anxious about what I was doing that I cut off contact but he got in touch with me 6 years later and as a grown woman I had to confess. I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. <br /><br />I don't think I'm sick or anything horrible, I was just a stupid teenager who had a very vivid imagination. I didn't see the pain my actions would cause and still feel guilty to this day. It is a horrible thing to have happen to you and I wish no one goes through the hurt. The internet is wonderful but years ago it was a cloak you could hide behind. These days you just cannot have that kind of privacy and I think it is all the better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-87422810888550477952011-04-27T13:02:25.809+10:002011-04-27T13:02:25.809+10:00Such an amazing post, Carly. I'm so sorry this...Such an amazing post, Carly. I'm so sorry this happened to someone as wonderful as you, but thank you for sharing this story with everyone. Your courage and strength is, as always, inspiring and incredible, and I really admire that you haven't lost your ability to trust people. xoxoEllehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02459252844594204485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-29101199328505939202011-04-27T11:59:12.687+10:002011-04-27T11:59:12.687+10:00What an ass! :-( All these experiences have made ...What an ass! :-( All these experiences have made you strong and the amazing person you are today. Your Mr Right will be amazing, because you deserve it! xLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15388078574981816329noreply@blogger.com