tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post2083075863174858814..comments2024-01-16T01:42:41.699+11:00Comments on Tune into Radio Carly: I've done too much thinking, so I can't think of a titleCarly Findlayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-10882814034971905452011-10-13T23:22:14.615+11:002011-10-13T23:22:14.615+11:00God, I could have written this. Had to block him o...God, I could have written this. Had to block him on FB as so many mutual friends but then made my twitter private and cut loose on there. What happened to the days when we could simply break up and never have to 'see' them again?.Fifihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12224341176993079007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-74499614125753103812011-10-05T20:29:57.921+11:002011-10-05T20:29:57.921+11:00When I was in this situation I had to cut off all ...When I was in this situation I had to cut off all contact. I can't be friends with someone when I want so much more. In your shoes I'd defriend, unfollow, block - whatever it took to minimise the contact. But that's me and you need to do what's right for you. One curious thing I found which might help - activities which engaged both my brain and my hands were more soothing than mindless activity or passive passtimes like reading and TV. No idea why, but jewellery making was my best escape for a while.Annhttp://www.likestowrite.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-34976596719553196982011-10-05T14:55:37.502+11:002011-10-05T14:55:37.502+11:00Fantastic new mantra. All of your loved ones will ...Fantastic new mantra. All of your loved ones will be shouting "yes!". I feel for you and the unbearable sadness you're experiencing. I can only imagine this sort of loss. I am certain though that with time the sadness will become bearable and you'll start to feel lighter again. Things will be fun again. At least we'll have Friday night to laugh and distract you. You'll still cry when you need to but I am all for distractions.<br />Heidi xoHeidi - Apples Under My Bedhttp://applesundermybed.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-53241200590507439222011-10-05T12:51:11.510+11:002011-10-05T12:51:11.510+11:00I know what you mean about feeling guilty about fe...I know what you mean about feeling guilty about feeling grief in this situation when you didn't in others. I've experienced grief in a range of ways and I think the grief of a relationship lost is different because it is a part of you that is lost. Hopes and dreams and all that. In my experience the sadness goes before the anger does, although maybe in my case it was more because I was angry with myself. How did I, a reasonable, intelligent woman with a great support network let myself be in a situation where I was essentially being emotionally abused on a daily basis?<br /><br />Seeing a counselor is great. Keeping busy is awesome - best time ever for a wardrobe declutter. I remodelled my entire front garden.<br /><br />But your last line is the real gem. I'm sure you will find that person. There is something really empowering about making the decision that the person you are with better be worth you, rather than you feeling like you have to be worthy of someone else.Lisa @ Blithe Momentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06044161376528094256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720872153813357167.post-62162939283201580962011-10-04T23:24:26.267+11:002011-10-04T23:24:26.267+11:00Oh Carly, I've been through this mysef recentl...Oh Carly, I've been through this mysef recently and I feel every part of your pain. I grieved, grieved raw and hard and gasping, and I'm so sorry for you, that this is your reality now. Please speak up if there is something I can do to help, and know this - time will soften everything.La Gaminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15343610711658754008noreply@blogger.com